Archive - April, 2008

God is in the Ordinary Moments

coffee17_1.jpgThis afternoon I watched basketball.  It was not the NBA playoffs.  Teams from the "Church Under the Bridge" and our own church played in our Community Center.  The afternoon was spent watching high school kids as well as some of our adults play basketball (with referees and awards at the end).  It was a great afternoon and was fun to see groups from these two churches play and get acquainted with one another.  God has a way of working through playing basketball together, eating hot dogs together, and having conversations with people like the guys I talked with this afternoon.

 
In order to see the potential of ordinary moments, I have found that I must regularly focus my attention on God.  Practicing some of the spiritual disciplines helps me do just that.  These disciplines have a way of cultivating the soul.  Like a garden, my soul must be cultivated. 

 
I like John Wesley’s insights at this point.  He once wrote about his own discipline before the Lord.  He wrote: "Here then I am, far from the busy ways of men.  I sit down alone; only God is here, in his presence I open, I read his book; for this end, to find the way to heaven."  Wesley saw the value of spending time alone with God, living in his presence, and listening to his voice in Scripture.

 
Wesley once received a note from a minister who was complaining that he was too busy to find time for prayer and reflection.  Wesley replied, "O begin!  Fix some time each day for prayer and Scripture.  Do it; whether you like it or not.  It is for your life!  Else you will be a triter all your days."  (Wesley, Standard Sermons)

 
Wesley is right.  Nurturing my heart is not a luxury.  It is a necessity.  Otherwise, I will not see life through the eyes of Jesus.  Nor will I be attentive to what he is doing or wishes to do through me.

 
Brother Lawrence (17th century) spoke of "the practice of the presence of God."  While cooking and washing dishes in a kitchen for forty years, he learned that he could "talk to the God of pots and pans."  In his book Seekers After Mature Faith, Glenn Hinson writes concerning Brother Lawrence:

 
"The longer I have studied his conversations and letters, the more convinced I have become that his secret was simply to fall head over heels in love with God and let that transfuse and transform everything he was doing."

 
I will be away from my blog until the weekend.  See you then. 

Places I’ve Been


Have you seen "YouVersion" of the Bible?  This is worth a look.  A variety of translations are available.  Comes with the capacity to include your notes and observations of various texts.

 
An interesting interview with N.T. Wright by Trevin Wax.

 
An audio interview with Tim Keller (Manhattan, NY) and author of NY Times Best Seller, The Reason for God.

 
A fine post by Terry Rush on grief.

 
Scot McKnight linked to a wonderful post written by a Dawn Husnick, a nurse.  Very good.

 
A nice post by Bobby Valentine in which he discusses what he is reading. 

 
William Willimon on Thinking about the Resurrection.

When the Devil Looks Like an Angel

cup.jpgJohn Newton, author of the hymn "Amazing Grace," reflected upon the work of the devil in one of his letters to his friend "Captain Clunie."   I read these words this morning from a letter dated October 19, 1766 from Letters of John Newton:

 
. . . and he is never more a devil than when he looks most like an angel.  Let us beware of him; for many wise have been deceived, and many strong have been cast down by him.

 
Now perhaps Newton is thinking of 2 Corinthians 11:14 ("And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light.")  In Newton’s letter, he reflects upon the work of the devil and in the discussion makes this statement, "He will let people talk about grace as much as they please, and commend them for it, provided talking will satisfy them."

 
I am curious.  In your experience, when have you seen the devil look most like an angel?   

An Incredible Grace

coffee16.jpgRight now, I am reading two very fine books.  Both are books that speak of the grace of God but from two different eras.  I am reading a new edition of the Letters of John Newton (I am not linking this book to Amazon because apparently they do not carry this book yet.) and L. L. Barkat’s Stone Crossings.  Both books are deeply personal.  Both have helped me as I reflect upon the grace of God in my own story.

 
I was attracted to reading Newton’s letters because of his own story as slave trader and his radical life change because of Jesus.  I was particularly attracted to him, though, because he wrote a hymn that I have loved for many years: "Amazing Grace."  I am reading Barkat’s book because of her blog and her ability to write a story with the words of a poet.  The subtitle of her book, incidentally, is "Finding Grace in Hard and Hidden Places."

 
I read Newton’s letters and heard one speak who knows something about the human heart and the God of grace.  These letters were written long ago (Newton was born in London in 1725.), but I find his words nurturing and encouraging.  His life and ministry were apparently just as encouraging:


. . . his fame became more widespread and people came from far and near to seek his counsel and help.  His friendly and hospitable home at Olney, and later in London, was a place to which the troubled and tempted resorted.  They found in him one who had been a worse sinner than themselves and who could enter into their experiences with tenderness and sympathy.  (p. xi)

This morning, I read again a line that was especially meaningful to me in Stone Crossings.  This particular line will resonate with many people.  Barkat is reflecting on the story of Genesis and the shame that appears in the story early on:


It seems that Adam felt like I used to feel — that it would be comforting to hide in darkness, that it would be a relief to flee from the God who walks around knowing what I’ve been up to.  (p. 19)

In a few words, she has captured the way many, many of us used to feel about God.  Many, many people continue to feel this way.  Many people believe that the only safe place is darkness.

 
Both of these books have been a reminder to me of God’s rich mercy.  They have reminded me of his grace in my own life.  I’m thankful.

 
Today, I want to think about God’s desire to be with me and to have me live in his presence.  God’s love for me and you is not because we are a certain kind of people or a certain kind of Christian.  His love for me today is because he is a God of grace.  

Yesterday — a Funeral

coffee1_th_1.jpgYesterday, I did a funeral.  

 
I did a funeral.  That statement has meaning to anyone in ministry.  It means I spoke at a funeral.  Yet, it usually means so much more.  It means that I was with the family.  It means that I got to see a family up close during a very difficult time in their lives.

 
I have no idea how many funerals I have participated in.  I do recall at least some of the situations:
 

  • A 26-year-old woman who died of cancer.
  • A 70-year-old man who died in a traffic accident.
  • A baby, born to a quiet West Texas couple, who only lived a few days.
  • A 17-year-old boy who died when he wrecked his truck one Saturday night.
  • A woman in her 80s who passed away in a nursing home.
  • A man in his late 40s who ended his own life. 

 
Participating in a funeral is not something to be taken lightly.  I really don’t know how to be involved in a funeral without being engaged emotionally because it is so personal for that family.

 
A funeral is personal because this is often a time during which a minister is allowed to peak inside that family.  I generally meet with the family prior to the funeral.  This time together might be long or it might be short.  One thing is for sure.  It is very personal.  They will usually tell stories about their loved one.  Funny stories.  Sad stories.  Tragic stories.  Very often they will tell rich stories about their loved one that speak of that person’s character and values.  Again, these stories are very personal.  When hearing these stories, one is allowed to look at some emotional snapshots of what goes on within that family.

 
A funeral is very personal because it elicits in that family so many thoughts, feelings, and memories about that mother, father, son, daughter, etc.  Of course there are many factors at work in all of this.  What was the nature of the relationship?  How close do family members feel to this person?  Are their memories primarily positive or primarily negative?

Reflecting on Your Life

coffee_cup_white.jpgIf I were to look at a DVD of my life, what would I see?  What would I see on video on the screen in front of me?

 
Now that is personal.  I suspect, if your life is normal, you would see a variety of behaviors, thoughts, motives.  You might see a moment that makes you smile as you remember an incident.  You might see some other moments that cause you to cringe.

 
We do think about our past or our history.  Hopefully we will do some serious reflection on our lives in light of Jesus’ Lordship.  Without reflection, we mindlessly repeat behaviors again and again.

 
First, I need to reflect on my willingness to take responsibility for my life.  I want to think about my own responsibility to follow Jesus as a disciple.  Do I live as a person who is serious about him?

 
Yet, it is easy to spend much of life blaming and projecting blame on others for the choices I have made.  "If it weren’t for . . ."  How can genuine transformation take place if I am preoccupied with focusing on what others have done to me?

 
At some point in my life, I need to deal with the choices and decisions I have made regardless of how I have been treated, whether good or bad.

 
Second, I want to reflect on the various hurts or wounds I have received in life.  You know about these wounds.  They can leave a person:
 

  • Fearful.  After all, you have never been able to count on very many people. 
  • Overly self-protective.  After all, when you have put yourself "out there," you have gotten burned.
  • Insecure.  It keeps you from trying anything new.  You fear you might fail.  Or, you fear you might succeed and then you can make no more excuses.

Some wounds come from our families of origin.  A father abandons his teenage children while he moves in with his girlfriend.  A mother is critical and negative toward her children, leaving them feeling as if they can never measure up.  Another comes out of a church experience that is negative and legalistic.

 
I think about the person who was wounded by the abandonment she felt as a child and then as a teenager.  As a child, she wondered why no one wanted to be with her.  She longed for a life that many people seemed to have.  She wanted a life in which people did the right thing and the family was intact.  Later on she learned with joy that God really did want to be with her. 

 
Such experiences can become your frame of reference for years to come.  I want to ask whether or not I am so focused on my wounds and the hurt behind them that I really don’t see anyone else’s wounds.

 
Third, I want to reflect on my "private thoughts" (Gordon MacDonald, When Men Think Private Thoughts, p. XVII-XIX).  MacDonald has suggested that we might want to look at these four areas in particular: one’s fears, comparisons that are made, any illusions of personal grandeur, and one’s feelings.  

 
Fourth, I need to reflect on my relationships.  MacDonald suggests some key inventory questions that might be helpful for one to contemplate:
 

  • Am I generally a drain on people I am around or do others find me energy-producing and encouraging?
  • How do I behave when I am frustrated?  Do I run over people?  Would others describe me as harsh and abrupt? 
  • How would my children describe my temperament at home?
  • Am I a people builder?  What am I trying to build into the people around me?
  • Am I enjoyable to be with?
  • Do I show a keen interest in the people around me?
  • In conversation, do I tend to monopolize?
  • Am I sarcastic, cutting or rude?  Do I use subtle put-downs?   

Are You On a Treadmill?

coffee29.jpgIf there was an image that describes many of us, it would be that of a tired man or woman on a treadmill.  The treadmill that began rather slowly has begun to move faster and faster.  What had been a challenging speed has now become overwhelming.  If you are like many, you are doing well just to keep from falling down.  You wonder at times how much longer you can hold on.

 
Many of us live each day as if we are on a never-ending treadmill.  The treadmill goes faster and faster as we scurry from one appointment to the next.  We move from one child’s piano lesson to the other child’s basketball practice.  On and on it goes.  Life becomes a blur punctuated by birth and death with a flurry of exhausting activity in between.  Cell phones ring.  E-mail piles up.  Meanwhile, we wonder whether we are really living or just existing.

 
If you are like many people, the days, the weeks, and the months seem to pass by so quickly.  Yet, there are those moments when you step off the treadmill long enough to think, to feel, or to pray.  You remember again the crushing burden you are carrying.  You think about the failed relationship with your daughter or son.  You contemplate the business failure that eats away at your sense of self-worth.

 
"Does anyone else feel like me?" you wonder.  After all, many people don’t seem to struggle at all — at least that is the way it appears.  When you look at some of your friends, it seems that they have everything going for them.  Yet, life is going fast and can get so complicated; you wonder if things will ever really be any better than this for you.  Maybe part of the problem is the pace of life.  Yet, I wonder if it is not much more.  I wonder if life on the treadmill has a way of disguising what is at the core of the soul.  

 
I suspect that for a lot of people being on the treadmill is one way of avoiding looking at one’s own life honestly.  It keeps everything at a superficial level.  They just don’t deal with their issues.  Richard Foster has said:

 
"Superficiality is the curse of our age.  The doctrine of instant satisfaction is a primary spiritual problem.  The desperate need today is not for a greater number of intelligent people or gifted people, but for deep people."

 
Unfortunately for many of us, we have just stopped growing, maturing, developing, etc.  Instead we have grown stale and our rut just keeps getting deeper.

 
John Gardner, former Secretary of Health, Education and Welfare, spoke at the commencement ceremony of Stanford University on June 16, 1991.  Gardner said:

I explored the question of why civilizations die and how they sometimes renew themselves, and the puzzle of why some men and women go to seed while others remain vital all of their lives . . . I’m talking about people who have stopped learning, or growing, or trying .  .  . I do worry about men and women functioning far below the level of their possibilities . . . As you settle into your adult lives, you cannot write off the danger of complacency, boredom, and growing rigidity, imprisoned by your own comfortable habits and opinions.  A famous French writer once said, "There are people whose clocks stop at a certain point in their lives."  

The Christlike Life, C. S. Lewis, and a Life Like Yours and Mine

coffee21.jpgThis morning I was skimming through my newest copy of Conversations (a journal that is focused on spiritual transformation).  I began reading an article entitled C. S. Lewis and "The Region of Awe" (David C. Downing).  This paragraph caught my attention:

 
Lewis defined the basic Christian walk not in terms of striving after ethical ideals but in terms of mystical transformation.  In Mere Christianity he explained succinctly that "every Christian is to become a little Christ."  He added that "putting on Christ" is "not one among many jobs a Christian has to do; it is not a sort of special exercise for the top class.  It is the whole of Christianity."  (Lewis, Mere Christianity, p. 120)

 
There is this sense in which Christ is being formed in me.  Yes, I am imitating Christ in the sense that I want my life to be a reflection of his.  I want to take on his values.  I want to take on his sense of priority (as in seeking first the kingdom).  I want to look at the way he handled himself in various situations and take my cues from him.

 
Yet, this is more than the kind of imitation that I did in second grade.  I can vaguely remember holding a Big Mo pencil in my left hand and trying to trace the letters of the alphabet.  Underneath the sheet of paper on which I was writing, each letter had been printed.  Now, I was to place my paper over these letters and trace each one of them.  There is something to be said for this, but living the Christlike life is even more than this.  

 
Something is happening in me.  I am a "new creation."  There is a newness that I am experiencing in Christ.  In other words, while on one level I am intentionally trying to live like Jesus, there is something else at work here.  The Holy Spirit is at work in me forming and shaping me into someone new — like Christ.

 
So what does all of this really mean?

 
1.  It means that the "new me" doesn’t depend upon how well I can perform or how good I can be.  The Christlike life is not based on who can perform the best.

 
2.  It means that while there are ethical mandates, the Christlike life is centered around something that is happening inside me that results in an outside expression.

 
3.  It means I should not resort to saying, "That’s just the way I am."  Rather, we should think in terms of how God wishes to change us and re-create us. 

Mind Sweep

coffee13.jpgIn front of me is a yellow legal pad.  The first page is full and I am now about halfway through the second page.  I am working on a "Mind Sweep."  I was first introduced to the value of a Mind Sweep through David Allen’s fine book, Getting Things Done.  The idea is that you sit down with paper, pen, (or you could do this electronically) and write down EVERYTHING that is on your mind. 

 
The first time that I did this was at a seminar.  The presenter said that we were going to take five minutes to write down everything that was on our minds.  I thought, "Well this won’t take long."  I immediately wrote down about seven or eight different items that I knew I had been thinking about.  (i.e. change the oil, prepare message, prepare for meeting, pick up air conditioning filters at Wal-Mart, etc.)  Then as I sat staring at the legal pad, I began to think of other things.  Things that were on my mind.  People who I needed to call or e-mail.  Something I needed to tell Charlotte.  The title of a book I was trying to remember.  By the end of the exercise, I had written about twenty- five different items that had been in my head.  It was amazing to see all that I was either trying to remember or was thinking about in some way.

 
Now I did this to help with my own personal organization, productivity, etc.  (These things have a way of creating stress by just remaining in our heads.  Far better to get them out on paper and deal with them in some way.)

 
I have also found a value for doing this that goes beyond the "Getting Things Done" approach.  I have found that very often, I just don’t realize what has been preoccupying my mental and emotional energy until I see it on paper.  Oh I could have told you a few things that I had been thinking about but not all of them.

 
In this exercise, I begin to realize a few things that have been on my mind for which I need to pray instead of worry.  Sometimes in doing this, I realize that I have been giving a disproportionate amount of time to some things which are really not that important while avoiding (procrastinating) some other matters which are much more important.

 
At times when doing this exercise, I realize that my mind has been preoccupied with far too many negative thoughts.  Sometimes I realize as I write down these thoughts that some of these preoccupations are sinful and fly against the character of God.  Again, there is something about writing down what I REALLY am thinking about that can help realize is actually on my mind.  (Most of us are probably thinking about much more than we realize.)

 
There is nothing magical about this exercise.  Rather, it is simply a help in getting a handle on the reality of what really is taking place in our minds.  Taking the time to be real and describe what really is may in fact be the first step to addressing some of these issues.

Places I’ve Been


Thanks to Liam Byrnes for pointing readers to John Piper’s post in which he quotes C. S. Lewis on writing.  Very helpful.

 
John Mark Hicks on "Divorced People–What Do They Feel?"

 
John Frye has written a fine piece, "Jesus Goes Postal."

 
Steve Addison on "The World’s Worst Persecutors"

 
Arlene Kasselman seeks comments regarding your experience with accountability groups.

 
Colin Adams posts regarding John R.W. Stott on "What the Congregation Should Remember."

 
Scot McKnight has posted for a number of weeks on the Kingdom of God.  Some very, very good insights.   (Thanks to Bob Robinson for the compilation of these posts.)

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