Archive - November, 2008

41 Things Ministers Ought to Know (Part 1 of 4)

keyWhat do Christian ministers need to know?  Specifically, I am speaking of people who might be on the staff of a church participating in some form of Christian ministry.  Regardless of your role, I believe these principles are important to know about ministry in general. 

 

A form of this list originally appeared here almost three years ago.  However, I have since updated, reworked, and expanded it.  The following list will be posted in four parts.  

 

1.  Learn
from other people
.  Look out for those who have continued to grow, develop and learn.  Be a lifelong learner.  Read.  Ask others questions.  When you are with other people, look for the opportunity to ask good questions.  Resist the temptation to spend the bulk of your conversations talking on and on about your church.  

 

2.  Resist the temptation to be a "big name."  Yes, there will be some people others will clamor to hear speak.  Some people will be visible and have national reputations.  Some will speak at seminars and various other gatherings throughout the country.  If that happens to you, then allow yourself to be used by God.  However, this will not be true of most of us.  Most of us will not be well known.  Why not pursue significance instead of self-importance.  When your life is in the will of God, your ministry will be significant.  What you do will matter, regardless of whether or not you are noticed and affirmed by others. 

 

3.  Ministry is all about relationships.  If you do not treat people right, it really does not matter what else you do.  It is amazing how some ministers will go to seminary, prepare themselves academically, and yet ignore some of the most basic realities about people.  Saying "hello" to people, showing an interest in their lives, and simply paying attention to others are all very important.

 

4.  Someone else can teach you something.  That "someone" may be a person you may or may not admire.  Be willing to learn from people with whom you disagree.  Be attentive to what God might teach you through others in your church.  An older woman?  A teenager?  A young father?  You never know.  Pay attention.  

 

5.  Be careful about what you say.  Some people are in the habit of ending conversations by saying, "I’ll call you" or "Let’s go to lunch."  I’m not sure that some of these people really intend to call or e-mail the other with a request for lunch next week.   Yet, this is confusing to others.  If you say, "I will call you," be sure to call.  If you say "Let’s go to lunch sometime," be sure to get back with that person to schedule lunch.  This is important if you want people to take your words seriously.

 

6.  Follow through.  Some people seem to always be starting something but then they lose interest and allow it to die.  Or, we say that we will complete a task and it never gets done.  It is important to follow through.  

 

7.  Be very careful about your ego.  Can it ever get in the way!  Pride can do so much harm in a church.  The truth?  You may experience times when others get the credit for your idea.  You may be in a situation in which a very lazy person is affirmed by others he manipulates while someone else who works much harder goes unnoticed.  If you are not careful, pride and resentment can slowly eat away at your heart. 

 

8.  Pay attention to the invisible people.  There are quiet, unassuming people in your church who say little and are not front and center.  Yet, these salt-of-the-earth people are so important.  These low maintenance, solid people often get ignored in churches while the high maintenance people may use up much of the oxygen in the room and get most of our attention.      

 

9.  Find someone on this planet in whom you can confide.  Life, ministry, and the day-to-day routine can be very lonely.  Having such a friend may help prevent a train wreck in your life.  Besides that, such a person can also serve to add some much needed perspective to your thinking and feelings.

 

10.  Get healthy!  One of the best things you can do in a church is model what a healthy (not perfect) human being looks like.  Go to a
counselor. Talk to a trusted friend.  Do whatever it takes to deal with
old wounds and inadequacies.  Consider your track record with relationships.  What needs to be addressed?

 

More later…

 

What else would you add to this list?

Thankful

thankful.jpgToday, I am thankful.

 

I am thankful to God who is the giver of everything else I am thankful for.  I’m grateful to him for the relationship that I enjoy with him.  Through it all, he has stayed with me, sustained me, prodded me, and has shown his grace in so many ways.

 

I am thankful for my wife Charlotte.  I am grateful that I can honestly say that our marriage is enjoyable.  She has loved me through years of life — and that says a lot!

 

I am thankful for two daughters, Jamie and Christine, and our son-in-law Phillip.  I am tempted at this point to tell you the many, many reasons why I am proud of them.  Perhaps what means the most to me is that I see in each of them a love for God that is real and genuine.

 

I am thankful for encouragers.  I can remember the encouraging words and actions of others from decades ago!  These moments of encouragement are stored away in the safety deposit box of my mind.

 

I am thankful for sweet moments in which someone has taken the time to call, write a note, or in some way express care.  What a nice moment when someone has initiated in some way: "Hey you are on my radar screen today!"  (By the way, this happens so frequently on this blog.)

 

I am thankful for the smell of hot coffee, the taste of cinnamon, and the sound of children laughing.  What else?   Dark chocolate.  Guacamole.  The smell of anything on the grill.    

 

I am thankful for anticipation.  How I love those moments just before one of my daughters comes home.  Many, many times I have looked through our kitchen window waiting to see them drive down our street toward home.  Finally, I see that familiar car and I hurry outside to greet her.

 

I am thankful for Thanksgiving.  It is a yearly reminder that I have so many reasons to be grateful to God.   

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These reflections were written in response to an invitation by L. L. Barkat

 

You are cordially invited by L. L. Barkat to join a Thanksgiving Celebration
Just post about a Thanksgiving memory, something you are thankful for
this year, a special family Thanksgiving tradition, your favorite
"thanksgiving" Bible verse, or anything else you can dream up.

Be
serious, spiritual, creative, beautiful, humorous, whatever … it’s a
celebration and good celebrations welcome all kinds of expression!

He Finished Strong

This morning, Prentice Meador, who many of you knew, passed away in a Nashville hospital surrounded by family and many friends.  Prentice was a longtime friend, minister, and encourager to many.  He blessed me in many, many ways.

 

(For more information about his illness and to leave a comment for the family, see this link.)

A Note From “Tech Support”

pray.jpgLast week, I wrote on this blog about a conversation with "tech support," a person whom I talked with on Monday evening.  (The post is entitled: "I Prayed For You.") She asked me to pray for her.  After posting this story, many of you indicated your willingness to pray for her.  She sent the following note as a comment yesterday.  I am including this comment in today’s post because of the nature of this note.  I also thought that some of you might like to write to her via e-mail, as she includes her address here.

 

yesterday was my 29th bday, nobody remembered it but i know God does, i
wasn’t able to go to church yesterday because i have to go to work, i
prayed & thanked him before i slept last night, i thanked him for
the opportunity that i meet Jim that day because he guided me back to
God’s path…it was almost 7 months ago when i last prayed to God, i
started back the day i ended the call with Jim, it’s very hard to face
& bear all the problems i have alone, i have no one to talk to about
it, im an only child & a loner, i tried suicide last year to escape
it all & i hated God when he let me live, but after reading all the
post on this blog, i asked God’s forgiveness…I thank you Jim &
everybody who prayed for me for opening my eyes & letting me
realize that God loves me still & i am also his child…thank you all
very much….my email is kiarra_louise@yahoo.com  i
would like to hear from you, i want to know more about God’s words… i
maybe good in computers & networking devices but i only know John
3:16 as a verse in the bible ( is it from the old or new testament?)… 

Places I’ve Been

The following links are some places I’ve been recently.  Enjoy!

 

Skye Jethani has written a fine post on the economic downturn and the churches’ ministry.

 

Also, see Terry Rush and his reflections on ministry and the economy.

 

Alan Hirsch has posted a funny cartoon on "The Last Thing to Convert."

 

Scot McKnight on "Reawakening Your Prayer Life."

 

Liam Byrnes has written a post in which he reflects on, "The Bleakness of Despair and the Harshness of Love."

 

See the cartoon at L.L. Barkat’s post, "This Was Me Two Days Ago.

 

You might read Mike Zook’s post on "Living in the Tension."  Mike has some very good observations about controlling.

 

Read this piece on Tim Spivey’s blog regarding the church.

 

Gary Cleveland on reading a book with which you disagree.

“Nail Your Colours”

FlowingstreamsFor the last week, I have been reading Stuart Briscoe’s new book, Flowing Streams.  Briscoe was the longtime pastor of Elmbrook Church in Brookfield, Wisconsin.  Now close to eighty years old, he speaks of growing up in Great Britain and some of the people who were such a positive influence in his life.  One of these people was Captain H. S. May, a career soldier in the Royal Artillery.  He spent much time in the Briscoe home when Stuart was a child and was a significant person in his life.  He showed great interest in Stuart and encouraged him in many ways.  

 

When Briscoe was seventeen, he decided to enter the Royal Marines.  Captain May gave him some important advice.  

… he told me, ‘You must nail your colours to the mast.  Right away!’  As I had never heard the expression before, he explained that in the old days when a ship of the Royal Navy sailed into battle, the colours of the sovereign were hoisted to the top of the mast and remained there throughout the conflict unless they were defeated or surrendered.  Then, of course, the colours were replaced either with the white flag of surrender or the colours of the conquering sovereign.  But with that in mind, some naval captains would order the colours to be nailed to the mast so that defeat and surrender were shown to be out of the question; they would rather ‘go down with all flags flying.’

 

‘You must show your fellow marines right away whose you are and whom you serve, Stuart,’ my military hero explained forcefully.  Too forcefully for my liking.

 

‘Did you do that?’  I asked timidly.

 

‘Yes, I did,’ he replied.  ‘The first night in the barrack room I knelt by my bed and prayed.’

 

‘What happened?’ I ventured.

 

‘They threw boots at me,’ he replied casually, as if this were an everyday occurrence.

 

‘What did you do?’ I queried, hardly daring to ask.

 

Looking at me as if the answer was so obvious he was surprised I should ask, he replied, ‘I cleaned them and returned them, of course!’

 

(Stuart Briscoe, Flowing Streams, p. 31)

Thankful

I’m very thankful for all of the people who prayed  for "Tech Support" the last few days.  How wonderful to share a prayer request for someone in a country far from this one and see an outpouring of people who pray.  I was very encouraged to see your response to her.

 

I continue to be very grateful to all of you who read these posts.  Some of you comment occasionally and some very regularly.  I have known some of you for a long time.  Others of you now seem like longtime friends as I have interacted with you through comments and even e-mail for several years.  Then, of course, some of you are fairly new to this blog and I am thankful that you are here.   

 

This blog began four years ago.  At the time, I did not know what to expect from anyone who might be reading.  I did know that writing helped me think through what was on my mind/heart.  Since then, you have been a constant source of encouragement.  Some of you comment occasionally or regularly.  Others have sent notes or have indicated on Facebook that a particular post was meaningful.

 

I like this medium.  It enables me to write something that I hope will be useful to you.  Sometimes these posts originate in what I’ve read or in some particular experience.  At other times, I am thinking about some dimension of life and choose to write about it.

 

Ultimately, I would hope that the posts generally reflect the name of this blog.  After all, I do believe that we are only fully human when we seek and hunger after God.  I really believe this.

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Update: You might enjoy my Facebook page or even Twitter.  I have found both to be very useful.  You might enjoy browsing through some of my bookmarks on my del.icio.us page.  I use this regularly and am constantly adding new bookmarks.

 

You might enjoy looking at God-Hungry Live for new videos that have been added.  Videos are added to this collection very, very regularly.  A number have been added in the last two weeks.  (Go to the top, middle portion of the page and look for "playlist" to see the videos that are available for viewing.)

 

Finally, "What I’m Reading" in the right hand bar has been updated.

I Prayed For You — Update

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(You may have seen this post yesterday.  If you did, I encourage you to go to the bottom of the post and click on "comments."  This woman commented this morning.  She signed it "tech support.")

 

She was so nice.  We were on the telephone for about 45 minutes.  I was having computer problems.  She was at the other end of an 800 number and worked in technical support.   What she did to help me was involved and detailed.  Yet, she was patient and polite.  A part of this process included a procedure during which she was able to actually look at my computer from her remote location.  Consequently, she was able to see my home page, which is this blog.  Finally, near the end of this process when it seemed that I would finally have wireless service again, she commented on the words that she saw in front of her on her screen.  She said aloud the words: “God-Hungry.” 

 

She then said something like, “That’s interesting.”  She asked me if I was a pastor or a minister.  I told her I was.  She laughed nervously and said, “I’ve got lots of problems.”  I said that I write this blog every day for people just like her who might need encouragement.  She said, "Well I need that."


She went on to give me a confirmation number and made a few comments about the technical help she had given.  She then said, “May I ask you a question?”  Sure.  “Would you pray for me?”  I could hear many people around her, no doubt helping other callers.  I realized that she was putting some trust in the voice at the other end.

 

I asked her if there was something specific that I could pray about.  She said, "I have so many problems."  I said, "Life can be overwhelming, can’t it?"  For a moment, there was silence on the other end of the telephone.  She then said, "I’m crying."  I told her that I was praying for her and would continue to pray later that evening.  I encouraged her to look on this blog for something that might be encouraging. 

 

The following is a brief note to her:

 

Thank you for your help last night.  I am glad you asked me to pray for you.  You gave me your name and the name of the country where you live.  After getting off of the telephone last night, I prayed for you.  I prayed that God would help you with these overwhelming problems.  I then "Googled" your country on my computer.  I looked at the map of your country.  

 

You are on the other side of the world from where I live.  Yet, God knows exactly where you live.  As I prayed, I thought about how he knows your address, your past and your present.  He knows exactly where you live and what might be going on in your life and family.  He knows the stress and pressure that you feel.  He knows what is not going right in your life.  He knows you and loves you.  

 

I prayed for you again, when I got to my office.  I know of nothing more powerful than praying for another person.  It is a privilege to pray to God on your behalf.  By the way, I happen to believe that our brief conversation was no accident.  This sounds like a moment in which God was working in your life to reach out to someone and communicate your need for prayer. 

 

Let me encourage you to look around this blog.  Many of these posts are written to encourage.  Feel free to either comment or e-mail me at jim@crestview-church.org.

Now to others who may be reading this post:  Will you consider praying for her today?  If you will pray for her, please leave a comment indicating that you will do so.  Also, if there is a post that you have read on this blog that in some way you have found encouraging, please leave a link in your comment.   

I’m Still the Boy

stickfigure_boy_footbal.JPGI looked in the mirror a moment ago.  I saw a guy.  Father of kids in their early twenties.  I’m married and enjoying it.  Yet, the mirror is deceiving.  I’m still the boy.

I’m still the boy who used to climb the cottonwood tree in front of our house on Alhambra street, look into the sky just before a storm, and wonder if Jesus was coming soon.

I’m still the boy who winced and felt shame at a very early age after telling a significant adult in my life that I liked a girl in my class.  I remember hearing him laugh and making fun of this.  While I would tell myself in later years that such an incident meant nothing, the moment nevertheless would be etched into my memory.

I’m still the boy who used to deliver the Dallas Morning News on my bike at 4:30 AM in my neighborhood.  I can remember sitting on the street corner at Hilburn and Tillman folding newspapers under a street light.  (Was this before crime?)

I’m still the boy who felt flush with embarrassment after I bought the wrong equipment for pee-wee football.  To this day, I can recall feeling foolish as the volunteer coach explained to me that this probably wouldn’t work.

I’m still the boy who put "doodlebugs" in my pockets and walked up and down the alleys near our house looking for great finds in other people’s trash.

I’m still the boy who played football and baseball in the "field" just behind our house with lots of neighborhood kids.  How many summers did I spend running those bases?  How many winters were spent pretending to be Dallas Cowboys players in game after game on this field?  Games lasted into the evening until one of us heard a mother call out, "Dinner’s ready!" 

I’m still the boy who used to wear cut-off shorts, a white tee shirt, and ride my bike all over Pleasant Grove (our community in the Dallas area).  How many times did I go to the model car and plane store, next door to the post office, and stare at the expensive models?

I’m still the boy who joined the Boy Scouts and learned how to camp, start a fire, and hike, as well as so many other skills that I would use for many, many years.

I’m still the boy who loved to go to my grandparents’ house each Christmas.  I remember riding in my grandpa’s truck on a snowy Christmas day as he took me to the woods to walk around in the snow and look at deer tracks.  To this day, I can recall the crunching sound that his boots made as we walked through the woods.

I’m still the boy who felt such delight when I received a few words of encouragement from Mrs. Cummings, my seventh grade social studies teacher.

I’m still the boy who was baptized at age ten after thinking and praying a lot about Jesus.  I remember reading that burgundy covered Bible, red-letter edition, that my father brought home from Grove Hill Cemetery where he worked.

I’m still the boy God worked through in numerous ways during those early years.  Looking back, I realize that he worked through many people to shape and form me.  At the time, I had no idea that he was at work through so many people and in so many situations. 

A few minutes ago, I looked in the mirror.  I don’t look like a boy anymore.  But inside I know the truth.  Inside, I’m still the boy.

Do you relate to this?  Do you ever feel as if you are still the boy or still the girl?

My Story: High School Years

LifeI went to a small Christian school from the time I was in kindergarten until I graduated from high school.  It was small, familiar, and felt like a warm, safe place.  I have memories of teachers who were good people, and, for the most part, these were happy times.  It was in this school that I was blessed to have Mrs. Foster for English grammar.  I continue to use so much of what I learned in her class.  It was in this high school that I would have Wayne White for history and learn how to take notes in class.  Again, I would use that skill for the rest of my life.   

 

All of this took place in the late 1960s and the early 1970s.  There was so much cultural upheaval during those years.  When I was a high school freshman, both Martin Luther King Jr. and Robert Kennedy were assassinated.  Drugs.  Race riots.  Woodstock.  The Vietnam War.   It was a time of much chaos and upheaval.  I remember driving on some major streets in Dallas and seeing people on the street corners selling radical newspapers.  (I still have a few copies filed away.)  Since those decades, volumes of books have been written on the issues of these years.  At the time, it was a bit much for me as a sixteen-year-old boy to try to sort out on my own. 

 

While in school, I watched these events on television as they were unfolding.  I can still remember watching our black and white television the night Robert Kennedy was assassinated.  I vividly recall being in our living room, sitting on the floor, staring at these horrible scenes.  In those days, I don’t remember a lot of overlap between what was on our television screen and what was happening in school.  In fact, it seemed like there was sort of a disconnection between school, church, and these cultural events that occupied my mind much of the time.  I found all of this to be overwhelming.  It was much easier to think about the Dallas Cowboys, what eight-track tape I would buy, and how to put more powerful speakers in my car. 

 

I began working nights at a fast-food restaurant on Buckner Blvd., a very busy street near our house (sort of the "main drag" for area high school students).  Most of the time, I worked one weekday night and then worked on Friday and/or Saturday nights.  I would generally get off at 4:00 AM on those days.  This was an introduction to a part of our community that I had very little experience with.  So many of the people who came through this fast food place during the very late hours were either drunk or high on drugs.  I was amazed at the number of adults who night after night seemed to do nothing but aimlessly roam the streets in their cars.

 

One year, 1970, there was a large "Jesus Rally" in our city.   It seemed that college students had come from various parts of the country to talk to people about Jesus on the streets during the day and then gather in various stadiums in the evenings.  I was at work one night and a number of these people came through to get something to eat.  I was amazed to see people my own age openly talking about Jesus and even having his name written in large white letters on the sides of their cars and vans.  Though I had been a part of a church all my life, this kind of thing was very foreign to me.  I had never seen people my own age be so open about their faith in Jesus.  What was especially impressive was these people all looked so normal.  I was amazed when my best friend from down the street told me that he and his girlfriend were going to a Jesus rally.  

 

Finally, I graduated from high school.  At the time, I felt very, very lost and had little direction in life.  I had no clue as to what to do.  Unfortunately, I was not seeking advice from any older, wiser person.  So, this was a time in which I felt very confused about my emotions, my thinking, and whatever direction I would take in life. 

 

I turned eighteen in July and went to the post office in Pleasant Grove to register for the draft.  A few months later, I received a dreaded letter in the mail informing me that I was to report to the Naval Station in downtown Dallas for a physical exam.  (Before being drafted a person usually received this notification first.)  I spent a Saturday morning being examined by various Navy medical personnel.  This was sobering.  The Vietnam War was still going on, and I wondered if I would not end up there. 

 

For the next few weeks, I visited the offices of several military recruiters wondering if I should join.  I never got drafted.  The war ended.  I would spend a number of years in college. 

 

More later.

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