Comments on: 41 Things Married People Ought to Know (Part 1)

By: J.S.

J.S. — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:33:15 +0000

Yipee… I found them… :p

By: J.S.

J.S. — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:27:52 +0000

Looking forward to the next group…..

By: Kelley Hansen

Kelley Hansen — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 05:57:39 +0000

Karin – I have no advice. Certainly, a situation such as you describe is very sad and I am sorry for anyone who’d have to – or is going – through it because I do not believe such a model is what God intends. However, we live (and must operate) in a fallen world where things are not always as God intends. I would hope the wife would hold fast to the promises of God’s Word and that she would count the blessings she still DOES have in that marriage and dwell there.

By: Karin

Karin — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:23:12 +0000

What if the ‘shoe is on the other foot’ and the ‘dry time’ will be the status quo for the wife the rest of their married life? What advice would you give to couples like that? Working with seniors has certainly opened my eyes to many heartaches on both sides. That kind of situation can certainly be a very long good-bye!

By: Kelley Hansen

Kelley Hansen — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:51:46 +0000

I just want to add that I know many women struggle with low libido and are ashamed to be honest and talk about it, but don’t be!! There is much that can be done for this problem. Start with prayer, a healthier diet and some exercise. Chances are if you feel better about yourself you MIGHT start feeling sexier. Also, there is pharmaceutical help if all else fails. Never stop trying to do what you can on your end to make your sex life it’s very best. I have been married for 22 years and my husband and I have gone through “dry periods” in this area. But just because you may be going through a dry time doesn’t mean it has to be that way forever, you might have to educate yourself and really work to pull yourself out the slump. But never give up…your husband will never stop thanking you

By: Kelley Hansen

Kelley Hansen — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:36:48 +0000

Marital sex is a GIFT from God that gets better with time and experience – never stop celebrating it!! Sex is so important to the intimacy of a married couple…invest time in it, cultivate it, and cherish it.

By: Jim Martin

Jim Martin — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:04:28 +0000

Jocelyne, yes Piper’s point that he has been making for many years is a good one. Consequently, marriage becomes a place we seek the face of God and desire to be shaped by him instead of being focused on personal happiness. I think that when God is the center of my pursuits and my heart, the natural result is to reflect his character (i.e. “Be holy for I am holy). When he is not at the center, marriage, work, children can quickly become pursuits that focus on my own happiness.

By: Jocelyne

Jocelyne — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:26:07 +0000

There is an idea going around that happiness IS the primary goal for the Christian… but only as he finds it in Christ. Then all else, including our marriages, falls in place. John Piper mentions this… how our passion should be to find absolute joy in God… and THEN, holiness follows naturally. Without the joy, holiness can be a heavy heavy burden. No, I would almost say it is impossible. Please comment/correct.

By: Jim Martin

Jim Martin — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 14:59:26 +0000

Bernice, thanks for your comment and for your words regarding the importance of a time together with the Lord each day. Thanks so much. 38 years of marriage–that is wonderful.

By: Jim Martin

Jim Martin — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 14:57:48 +0000

Alison, I am glad these were helpful to you as you prepare for your upcoming marriage. I also like Gary Thomas’ book Sacred Marriage. It is outstanding and has been helpful to me in focusing on the meaning of marriage. I wish you the very best in your upcoming marriage, Alison.