I was a junior at the University of North Texas when I decided to quit.
I was tired of school. I was working late nights at United Parcel Service. I went to bed each evening about 2:00 am and then got up in time for my 8:00 am class the next morning. My grades were not good and I was exhausted. I decided I was going to quit college. I thought about some people I knew who were not college graduates and yet seemed to be doing well.
One day, I skipped classes and drove to Dallas, determined to find something else to do with my life. First, I interviewed at a school that trained radio announcers. The interviewer told me how difficult it was to break into a major market like the Dallas-Fort Worth area. (I think I had in mind replacing my favorite announcer on the Dallas station I listened to!)
Next, I interviewed with the Dallas Police Department. My interviewer was a Dallas police sergeant. He was African-American, in his late 50s, much gray hair, and was smoking a pipe. He asked me about college. I told him that I was a junior at North Texas and that I was going to quit. He looked at me in this fatherly way and said, “Son, why don’t you just finish school. Then if you are still interested, come back and see me.”
His words were important. I decided to stay in school. I am grateful for this very wise police sergeant.
Through the years, I’ve tried to handle my uncertainties, my frustrations, and my need for direction in a much different manner. I have sought the counsel of people who have helped me think through various decisions. I am grateful for those who have shared their wisdom.
Before you quit your ministry, your job, or even your marriage, consider the following:
1. Have I sought and received the counsel of wise and godly people?
2. Does this decision have to be made today?
3. Does quitting really solve a significant problem? In other words, does this action solve a problem (it may) or will it actually serve to create new problems?
4. Have I talked through my possible action with those who will be directly affected? In other words, have I talked with those who will be directly impacted by my decision?
5. Have I spent sufficient time in prayer regarding this decision? Did I decide and then ask God to bless my decision or did I seek God’s wisdom first?
What has been helpful to you in making a decision that involved quitting? Is there a particular question you have found to be valuable in the process?