21 Ways to Upgrade Your Relationships (Part 2)

(I am away on a vacation/study break during the month of July. The posts that appear during the month are from the archives.)

 

Upgrading relationships is not about fixing other people. Rather it is about being intentional toward others.  

Consider these possibilities for upgrading your relationships.

4. Be intentional about loving another. After all, loving God and loving others are the greatest commandments according to Jesus. One place to begin loving others is your relationships with your spouse, children, co-workers, and friends.

 

5. Receive these individuals just as they are. In contrast, some people, in their relationships, are constantly critiquing and evaluating others.

I once looked for another car, a used car. (Perhaps I should use the language of the car lots. I was looking for a pre-owned car.) After weeks of walking through car lot after car lot, I finally found a particular car that really caught my interest. I began to give serious thought to buying this car. Before buying this car, however, I inspected this car several times. I drove it. I walked around it, keeping my eyes peeled for any dent, nick, or blemish. I inspected the inside of this car, carefully looking for any cut or tear in the fabric or any sort of spot. I did not want to purchase this car and then get home only to realize that I had not inspected it close enough. Inspecting a car like this can be very helpful when buying a car. It is not good to practice this in relationships.

My wife, children, and friends do not need my constant critique and evaluation. Rather, they need for me to receive them and love them just the way they are.

6. Be quick to apologize. I have a friend who once had a strong disagreement with a close friend. In the course of the disagreement, the friend made some very insulting and hurtful remarks to the other guy. As a result, their friendship had a rift for many years. At one point my friend said, “If the relationship is to continue, I will have to move on past these remarks.” I then asked, “Did he ever apologize to you?” My friend said, “I’ve known him for a long time. He is not the kind of person who ever apologizes for anything.

How sad. We all blunder. We all mess up. We all make mistakes. Perhaps you make a thoughtless remark or an attempt to be humorous is taken as an insult. Yet, we enhance our relationships if we are quick to apologize.


Question:

What is important to you as you think about your own behavior in relationships? What especially does damage to significant relationships?

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  • http://www.ronnietabor.com Ronnie

    Jim,

    Your number 4 reason really resonates with me.

    I recently posted on this topic, after I cam across Bob Goff’s book LOVE DOES. It is no accident that Jesus stated that by Loving God with our entire being and Loving your neighbor as yourself hangs the whole law.

    I want this to be the way that I live out my Christianity.

    http://www.ronnietabor.com/?p=574

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