I just had lunch with a friend who is such a person. He is older, wiser, and helped me think through a life issue and a church issue as well.
I am better off for having spent time with this friend. He is the kind of person who makes me want to be a better man and leader. I enjoy being with him.
Now I realize that not everyone is like my friend. Some people complain constantly. Some people enjoy arguing. Some are pessimistic and cynical. Others are manipulative. Many of us deal with all kinds of people every day.
I have learned that I am better equipped to deal with these kinds of people if I am deliberate about surrounding myself with five different kinds of people.
1. A joyful person. I am grateful to know some joyful people. These are people who may have challenges but their attitude is joyful.
2. A person who is a learner. I love being with people who are always learning and growing. I find that so stimulating.
3. A person who will help me. I am thinking of a couple of people who will ask me a question or two and then have the patience to listen. Through their genuine interest in my life, I feel valued and appreciated.
4. A person whom I can help. I get energized by being with a person who genuinely wants my help and will even follow through regarding what we discuss.
5. A person who believes in me. I am fortunate enough to have been given this gift through my wife, Charlotte. I find her confidence in me to be energizing and helpful.
Are all five kinds of people in my life all the time? Not necessarily. I do tend to gravitate toward these people. They have a way of adding value to my life and I am better for having known them.
What kinds of people add energy and value to your life? What would you add to the above list?