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“His Name is Carlos”

mop.jpgI’ve learned through the years that you never know what you might be reading that will end up pointing you toward God.  Yesterday, I was skimming through the new Forbes magazine (print edition) and began reading a page written by Rich Karlgaard, the publisher.  His page was entitled, "Godly Work."  What an encouraging article!

 
He quotes from Nancy Ortberg:

Ortberg spoke of how her mentor, Max De Pree, former CEO of Herman Miller, engaged his workers, ‘Max had a rule for his leadership team.  Every Wednesday they were to bring a brown bag lunch and go down to the factory floor, where the furniture was being made, to eat.  They were to sit and listen for an hour to get to know the names of the workers on the floor and to learn about the obstacles workers were facing as they did their jobs, as well as hear about the ideas they had for future designs.’

 
Ortberg herself was at one time an emergency room nurse.  One night she witnessed an astonishing leadership act: It was about 10:30 p.m.  The room was a mess.  I was finishing up some work on the chart before going home.  The doctor with whom I loved working was debriefing a new doctor, who had done a very respectable, competent job, telling him what he’d done well and what he could have done differently.

 
Then he put his hand on the young doctor’s shoulder and said, ‘When you finished, did you notice the young man from housekeeping who came in to clean the room?’  There was a completely blank look on the young doctor’s face.

 
The older doctor said, ‘His name is Carlos.  He’s been here for three years.  He does a fabulous job.  When he comes in he gets the room turned around so fast that you and I can get our next patients in quickly.  His wife’s name is Maria.  They have four children.’  Then he named each of the four children and gave each child’s age.

 
The older doctor went on to say, ‘He lives in a rented house about three blocks from here, in Santa Ana.  They’ve been up from Mexico for about five years.  His name is Carlos,’ he repeated.  Then he said, ‘Next week I would like for you to tell me something about Carlos that I don’t already know.  Okay?  Now let’s go check on the rest of the patients.’

 
Ortberg recalls: ‘I remember standing there writing my nursing notes — stunned — and thinking, I have just witnessed breathtaking leadership.’

 
(Rich Karlgaard, "Godly Work" in Forbes, April 23, 2007)

I love this story!  Have you seen or witnessed moments like this one?  What is there about this story that is so important and refreshing?  Is there a key person in your business or church who is invisible to some people but in fact is critical to your work?

What Do You Really Like About Your Church?

add_cosmic_orbs.jpgPerhaps you heard about the coyote that last week walked into a downtown Chicago Quizno’s (a sandwich shop) and sat down in front of the drink machine.  Startled customers calmly made their way out of the restaurant.  An hour later, animal control picked up the coyote and took him away.  I suspect that when Quizno’s employees went to work that morning, the last thing they had on their minds was a coyote.  Yet sometimes we end up in places we did not intend to go.

 
I think churches are like that.  Very often churches begin with a dream or a vision of some kind.  Perhaps the church is a new plant.  Or, perhaps this is an established church that in some way has been revitalized.  The church may be urban or rural.  It may be suburban.  The church may be very formal or highly informal.  Yet, the truth is that very often these churches eventually lose something.  In fact, what was once an alive, vibrant church can become stale and stagnant.

 
As I think back to the churches that I’ve been a part of, there have always been some positives.  Yes, there are always some negatives.  Sometimes, churches go through seasons where the negatives seem to far outweigh the positives.  However, I do remember at some point, seeing something that was positive. 

 
I am curious as to what you see in your church that is a real positive.  Is there any one thing that stands out to you?  Is there one aspect of the life of your church that you particularly like and appreciate?  I am really interested in hearing what a number of you might say.  

A Conversation with Two Women

apple.jpgYesterday, I had a telephone conversation with two women.

 
This sounds like no big deal.  It was, however, a big deal to me.  These two women were my daughters.  Now I usually don’t think of my daughters as two women.  I think of them first as my daughters.  I often think of them as girls who are growing up.  Last night, however, I got off the telephone thinking about their ages (24 and 20), their maturity, and their love for God.  They are two women. 

 
Like any parent and child this age, we go back a long way.  Charlotte and I watched them grow and mature, even as we were growing and maturing ourselves.  We watched them move from various stages of immaturity to various stages of maturity.  Now, here they are, adults. 

 
Isn’t that a picture of a church?  Isn’t that a picture of ministry with a church?  A church is a hodge-podge collection of human beings.  A church typically is composed of people who are every kind of size, shape, and temperament.  Some of us grew up in Christian homes with a rich heritage of faith behind us.  Others of us grew up in homes where faith in God was not a part of daily life.  A church consists of singles, married people with children, and others who have no children.  We are old, young, and in between.  Some of us have more money than others.  Some of us are struggling financially.  A church consists of men and women who love to think, some who love to act, and still others who love to meditate and reflect.  Some of us are more mature than others.  We are a church.

 
I have been a minister for almost fourteen years with one church.  That is amazing when I think about it.  It seems amazing because it doesn’t seem like fourteen years.  Hopefully, we as a people who make up this church are maturing in Christ.  That ought to be true of all churches.

 
God has a way of taking all of us in a church and creating a new people.  Ideally, we are becoming more mature than what we were yesterday.  As we yield to him, we are becoming something different.  We are becoming someone different.  Christ is becoming more fully visible in our lives as we are being transformed into his likeness.  This transformation is not the result of trying harder or doing better in our walk with him.   This is the work of the Spirit that comes about as we yield ourselves to his desires (2 Corinthians 3:16-18).

 
There is something terribly wrong when a Christian can say that he or she has experienced no change over the past decade.  Something is terribly wrong when a Christian is stuck in a state of perpetual immaturity.  Something is wrong when a man or woman has the same ungodly attitude that he or she had a dozen years ago.  Yet, I have heard some people say, "Well, that’s just the way he is."  That may be the way he is but let us not act as if a person stuck in such spiritual immaturity is okay.

 
I loved my daughters when they were in junior high school (what interesting years…).  Yet, something would be very, very wrong if these two 20- and 25-year-old women were stuck in the emotional level of a junior high school student.  Something would be very wrong had they never matured beyond those years.

 
What happens to a church when we are not maturing in Christ?  What becomes of a church that remains in perpetual immaturity?

Who Are You?

cup.jpgWhen I am writing a post for this blog, I sometimes try to imagine what you are doing when you read it.  I try to imagine who you might be.  Granted, I know some of you through relationships, etc.  Others of you are at least familiar to me through your comments.  For the most part, however, I don’t know you.  So, I try to guess.  Here are some people who I think might be reading this blog right now:
 

  • You are a young college student.  You have a test tomorrow and a paper due at the end of the week.  You are in the middle of a busy semester.
  • You are a young mother.  You read this while sipping coffee, wondering what the commotion is in the next room.  (Probably the 2-year-old!)
  • You are a business person.  You are at work reading this trying to get your day started.
  • You are single.  At times you really don’t feel like you are following Jesus very well.  Yet, you hang in there!
  • You are a teacher.  You work in an academic environment.  The pay isn’t good, and you have other frustrations.  Yet, you believe in what you are doing.
  • You are a minister in some particular role and work in a church setting.  The church may be rural or urban.  The church may be a church plant or an older, established church.  There is so much about ministry that you love.  Yet it can also be incredibly stressful and discouraging.
  • You are a little older.  In fact, you imagine many of these readers being quite younger than you.  Yet, you want to stay fresh and alive no matter how old you are.

Maybe you identify with some of the people above.  I do think it is important to occasionally imagine who might be reading this.  I try to remember this when I am speaking publicly.  Maybe I am teaching a class, preaching, or giving a talk from the Bible.  I want to remember that I am talking to real live people.  It is important that I connect with the people to whom I am speaking (or at least attempt to connect).

 
Let me suggest to you that the Psalms really do connect with life.  I am reading three or four Psalms each morning.  Often, I will linger over one Psalm or even a line in a Psalm.  Think of lingering over a Psalm as you might linger over a cup of coffee and dessert after a fine meal.  This is not something you want to quickly glance at.  Rather, take your time and linger. Hear these words from Psalm 46:

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.  Therefore we will not fear though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their fear.

 
There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells.  God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.

 
Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall; he lifts his voice, the earth melts.

 
The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.  Come and see the works of the Lord, the desolations he has brought on the earth.  He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth; he breaks the bow and shatters the spear, he burns the shields with fire.  

 
"Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth."

 
The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.

What Message Are We Sending?

southern_ocean_storm_000.jpgThis life is often difficult.

 
Maybe that is why I have always identified with the people in the church and community who at times just find life to be tough.  I get a little suspicious of people who seem to have everything all figured out.  You know these people.  Their marriages are just right.  Their kids are just right.  Their work?  Why it is the perfect job!  School?  They are loving all of their classes. 

Meanwhile, I think life is often difficult.  Marriage is sometimes very difficult.  My wife and I have a good marriage.  But — at times our marriage has been difficult.  Rearing children is sometimes very challenging.  I love my children, but at times it has been extraordinarily difficult to be a parent.  I am a minister.  I love being a minister and the work I have been called to do.  Yet, it can be very difficult.

 
What makes it difficult to live in reality?  Here are a few obstacles:

 
1.  Being with people who pretend that it is very spiritual to talk as if everything, all of the time, is just absolutely wonderful.  These people can create environments where those who struggle begin to think they must not be very spiritual because their lives are not like that.  There are people who suffer and live with excruciating pain.  I think of the woman in our church whose pain was so intense during our worship service recently that she went to her car and laid down in the back seat.

 
2.  Being with people who see themselves as some of the very, very few who "get it."  They have a way of being very condescending to those who they perceive as not really getting it.  These people can spend much time and energy evaluating and critiquing others in the body of Christ.  What happens as a result?  People in the churches learn not to say anything about their real thoughts, their real feelings, and their real doubts.  After all, who wants to be critiqued, evaluated, and talked to with that condescending tone?

 
3.  Being with people who are so busy with their own lives, their meetings, their schedules, and their concerns that they aren’t fully present with other people.  (Been there.  Been guilty of this one!)

 
I don’t want to be any of these people.  I want to be a person who can be a friend to someone who finds life difficult.  However, such a friendship and presence needs to come out of my own life with God.

 
I like what Randy Harris says in a chapter entitled "Spirituality for the Busy, Frantic, and Overwhelmed."

Glenn Hinson argues that what the church needs most are saints — people who have truly placed their lives under God’s will and control.  We don’t just need leaders with greater skill, we need leaders who are deep people.  Do you hear the call to lead out of your own deep spiritual life?

 
If we learn to pray the way Jesus prayed, read the Bible in a transforming way, practice God’s presence in the everyday routine of life, and catch the vision of the God who works in all things, we can be the deep leaders the church needs.  And in the process we will discover that true spirituality is not one more activity to add to overburdened lives but a way of living that drives our drivenness away.  Then we discover the blessedness to lead without guilt and that the promise of Jesus rings true — the yoke is easy and the burden is light.

 
(Harris in Like a Shepherd Lead Us, p. 31)

Why is it that some of us go to great lengths to convince one another that our lives are almost perfect, without struggle?  What is our fear?  What impact do we have on those who are really struggling with life when we communicate that our lives are very near perfect and without struggle?

What Do We Really Crave?

coffee5_1.jpgMy friend drove to Waco the other day from a city located several hours from here.  He has been living and working in this city for a number of years.  Now he is about to move.  He will be living in a new city, a new state, and will be working in a new role in ministry.  For several hours, we discussed some of the practical aspects of that role.

 
He asked me some wonderful questions.  I tried to be very honest.  At one point, he asked me a question to which I gave this answer:  "I haven’t done that very well.  I wish I had done better."  

 
There was a time when I probably would not have been that candid.  I probably would have minimized any weakness.  Yet, the other day, I didn’t feel threatened by my answer.  Maybe it is because I am at a point in life where I am less concerned with how I might appear or be perceived than whether or not I am being an authentic person in Christ.

 
I am also learning to embrace my humanness.  Staring face to face at my weakness, incompleteness, inadequacy, and mistakes is a reminder that only in Christ am I complete.  Hopefully, that signals a shift toward wrestling with internal issues instead of being focused on external appearances.

 
Jim Herrington, R. Robert Creech, and Trish Taylor write in their excellent book, The Leader’s Journey, the following:

None of us took on the sacrificial demands of leadership expecting to be buried in endless meetings and administrative details.  We wanted meaningful ministry, supported by a rich and purposeful life, full of significance.  Instead, we sometimes find ourselves busier than ever but going through the motions, with an emptiness clinging to our best efforts….  We may not be aware that what we crave is a supernatural transformation.

 
In his book Soulshaping, Douglas Rumford captures the essence of our dilemma: "Our search for something more out of life usually begins with externals….  We’ve confused activity with effectiveness, holding certain positions or titles with personal prestige, accumulating money with security, and sexual encounter with genuine intimacy.  We’ve been so caught up in these pursuits that we haven’t really considered what goals we were chasing — and what will happen when we actually catch them!"

 
(Jim Herrington, R. Robert Creech, and Trisha Taylor, The Leader’s Journey, p. 130)

Busy, Frantic, and Overwhelmed?

busy.jpgI learned something early on in my ministry.  Unfortunately, it was not good.  I learned that many people primarily see ministry as doing things for God.  Now of course that is overly simplified.  Yet, that was my perception at the time.  It seemed like we especially admired people who looked exhausted. Of course, ministry can be very difficult and exhausting at times.  Paul even spoke once of warning a group of people "…night and day with tears."  Yet ministry and life in Christ are really to be much more than a life of exhaustion.

 
A few years ago, I was in conversation with a minister who traveled with his wife throughout the country speaking in many churches.  I asked him what he was seeing in these churches.  "How are you reading these churches?"  His reply was interesting.  "What I am seeing are churches full of very tired people.  In fact, many of them just look exhausted."  Many of us understand what he was saying.  Don’t we?  Maybe you are a young mother with several children.  You may be a father who is just trying to deal with all the demands of your job and stay connected to your children as well.  You may be a university student with papers to write, books to read, and another test at the end of this week.

 
Yet, being a spiritual person is not about being "spiritual" on top of everything else I must do this week.  "Let me see, I have to go to Target, do the laundry, clean out the flower bed, and call my mother so that she knows we are coming this weekend.  Oh yea, I need to also be spiritual sometime today."  Rather than one more item on the ever-growing list, maybe my relationship with God is something more than this.

 
I appreciate Randy Harris’ words in a fine little book, Like a Shepherd Lead Us:

This is the place to begin any discussion of spirituality for church leaders — a group of people who surely fit the description of being busy, frantic and overwhelmed.  Let me say it as clearly as I can: Spirituality cannot be one more task piled on top of people already overburdened with the care of God’s flock.  Enough is enough!  We are not the Messiah.  That job, thankfully, has been taken and done extraordinarily well!  You and I must quit acting as if the whole of eternity depends on us doing one more job.

 
The call of the spiritual life is not to more frantic activity.  The spiritual life is rather the call to peace.  So, as we come to walk more closely with God, the chaos should recede from our lives.  We cease to be under the tyranny of frantic business.

 
When I visited the Church of the Savior in Washington, D.C., the leaders repeated a phrase that has haunted me ever since.  "If you are overextended, you are under-committed."  They take commitment so seriously that they believe one can’t be committed to thirty different things.  So if you are overextended, it’s virtually guaranteed that you’re under-committed.  I think that is the description of most Christian leaders I know, and it is certainly a description of me.  Deeper spirituality is not a matter of doing more stuff.

 
(Randy Harris, "Spirituality for the Busy, Frantic, and Overwhelmed" in Like a Shepherd Lead Us, edited by David Fleer and Charles Siburt)

When Self-Protection Gets In The Way

coffee3.jpgI first came in contact with David Hansen several years ago when I was at a ministry seminar at Regent College in Vancouver, B. C.  Hansen was a guest lecturer along with two others, Gordon Fee and N. T. Wright.  I had read a book or two by him, so I was delighted to get to hear him speak.  

 
One morning he spoke and afterward the three hundred participants had lunch.  Wright and Fee were scheduled to speak that afternoon.  So after lunch, Hansen made his way into the large meeting room to sit with the seminar attendees.  He happened to sit down next to me.  I enjoyed a pleasant but brief conversation with him before the others began speaking.  I found him to be warm and gracious just as he seemed to be when he was speaking to three hundred people that morning.  

 
I am going to quote from his book The Power of Loving Your Church.  Yes, some of this is directed toward ministers in particular.  But let me encourage you to read this as a normal everyday believer who has been called to love the church.  The following are a few lines from a chapter in which he discusses the importance of loving people in the body of Christ:

Ambivalence masks itself as wisdom, whispering, "Don’t get involved, it only hurts to care.  Don’t make a decision, someone will be disappointed and you’ll have to backtrack…."  (p. 40)

 
…In ambivalence, I cannot decide to leave the church and cannot decide to love the church.  (p. 41)

 
…We can resign ourselves to the fact that our parishioners struggle with ambivalences too, and therefore we should simply accept it.  But this doesn’t work for us.  Everyone else we know can conceivably pursue a vocation without love. 

 
Sure, it’s better if teachers, doctors, and artists love the people they work with.  But they can perform their work without love and they can even do it well.  The bind we face is that we can’t do pastoral ministry without love.  It isn’t a series of tasks we do with love — rather, pastoral ministry is love, which we apply with a series of tasks.  Preaching, teaching, calling, praying, even church administration are nothing but the consistent application of God’s love to the church.  God’s love is the oil that the lampstand burns to produce the light of the world, and we are the bearers of that love. (p. 43) 

 
…When Christ wants us to love a congregation, he establishes his beachhead in the heart of the pastor.  However, the heart of the ambivalent pastor is guarded, militarized territory.  Land mines everywhere.  Barbed, electrified wire abounds.  Searchlights blast the beach.  Jesus of Nazareth, our crucified and risen Lord, walks into the danger and absorbs the angry, brutal defense of our ambivalent heart.  He uses no weapons of warfare, but he has ways of breaking our hearts wide open.  (p. 49)  

I understand the temptation to be ambivalent.  After all, loving people is to set yourself up to be hurt.  Yes, loving people can be joyful, satisfying, rewarding, etc.  Yes, there are people who will love you in return and whose love will bring great encouragement to your life.  There are also people who can and will hurt you.  To love is to put yourself "out there" where your heart will be trampled on by some.

 
I think Hansen is right.  The answer to this is not to put the protective fence of ambivalence around our hearts to guard against hurt.  The answer is going to be found in learning to abide in Christ.  We abide in him by learning to love the believers (John 15:9-14).  We first abide in him and out of that abiding we have a new capacity to love.  I do not have the capacity within me to do this kind of loving.  However, Christ in me gives me a new capacity to love and a new source for loving.  That love coming through me to another will often come out of brokenness because I have dared to stop the subtle practices of self-protection.

 
Is this familiar territory for you?  Do you ever find yourself putting more energy into self-protection than loving people?  In what ways do we practice self-protection?  Why is it that we sometimes seem surprised that love is often painful?

Playing to the Crowd

clapping_hands.gifYesterday I was in a local McDonald’s.  It was early morning.  I was reading a book, taking some notes, and sipping a cup of coffee.  At one point the manager, a woman in her 30s, walked by and asked, "Are you working hard?"  

 
I can’t remember a time when I didn’t work.  A paper route.  A job at a fast food restaurant.  A short stint at door-to-door sales.  Long nights in a bakery and more.  Today, I continue to work.  Yet, I have not always been sure about my motivation.

 
When I finished the M. Div. degree at Abilene Christian University after three years of study, I immediately began to work with a fairly new church in Alabama.  Even while in school, I had preached, served as a youth minister, etc.  Yet, it seemed different now that I was out of school.  I felt behind.  Somehow, I sensed that I didn’t know enough or in some way was behind other young ministers like myself.

 

I worked very hard to somehow "catch up."  These feelings of inadequacy played into my desire to do well and to perform well.  I suspect that deep down I longed to hear a "well done."  Yes, I knew that the Lord’s "well done" was most important, but I was focused on getting one now.  Looking back, I suspect I was confused as to whose applause really mattered.

 
Fil Anderson, in his book Running on Empty, writes:

The questions asked of me when I was young trained me in the things others found most important.  "What do you want to do when you grow up?"  And even if "What do you want to be?" was ever asked, my answers invariably fell neatly into career categories — professional athlete, astronaut, fisherman, or fireman — not character categories — a faithful Christian, a philanthropist, a compassionate person, or even a creative person.  Having been trained to connect my identity with what I did more than who I was, my identity was to be found in my performance.  This resulted in my identity’s being reduced to my performance plus other people’s ratings of my performance.  The more audiences I played for, I figured, simply raised my chances for bigger and better ratings, when in fact what was raised were my chances for leading a more confusing life.  As Evelyn Underhill put it, I spent most of my time and energy conjugating three verbs: "to want, to have, and to do."  I was forever playing to the crowd.

 
I recall reading many years ago an interview of a member of the Boston Philharmonic Symphony Orchestra.  In it the interviewer asked how it feels to get a standing ovation after a performance or a negative review the morning after.  I was initially puzzled by the classical musician’s response as she explained how she used to be greatly affected by the crowd’s reception, however, over time had learned to look only for the approval of her conductor.  Her logic was simple; her conductor was the only person in the crowd who really knew how she was supposed to perform.

 
(Fil Anderson, Running On Empty, pp. 65-66)

 
Do you relate to this at all?  Have you ever come to a place in life where you realized you were trying to please someone else more than God? 

Running on Empty?

empty.jpgI suspect you know what it is like to be "running on empty."  I sure do!  There are certain activities that just drain the energy out of me (long meetings, endless discussions over matters that seem insignificant, etc.)  Sometimes the pace is fast, full, and constant.  At some point, I begin to feel empty.

 
Fil Anderson has written a fine work entitled Running On Empty.  Early in the book, he writes:

…The greatest threats I’ve encountered are not the arguments of skeptics or the lure of drink, drugs, or sex.  The greatest threats are the constant busyness and frantic hurry that demand my allegiance.  Author Robert Benson says, "We take our place in the race and watch our lives disappear in the daily grind."  We rarely are grounded in the present moment (where God is to be encountered) because we’re always rushing out beyond it or replaying in our minds our disappointing past.  Shame and sadness over our dark past drives us to strive for a brighter future, which generally winds up being busier rather than better.  (pp. 19-20)

 
The crazy truth is that as much as we complain about it, we actually want to be seduced by busyness.  But why do we love the killer?  In part, it’s because when we’re busy, we don’t have to think about important matters we prefer to avoid.  Busyness enables us to quiet the voice of the deeper issues that trouble and haunt us.  Plus busyness makes us feel important.  Everyone prefers action and adventure to boredom.  (p. 20)

 
(Fil Anderson, Running On Empty

 
Does this sound familiar at all?  Is busyness seductive?  What does it promise? 

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