Monday Start: Resources for the Week

start (1)We have moved to Memphis.   As of January 2, I work at Harding School of Theology.  This week I resume writing this blog.  Each Monday I will post a feature entitled “Monday Start: Resources for the Week.”  This post will consist of links to articles, books, etc. that might be of interest to you.

Mental illness

Don’t miss this post by Karen Spears Zacharias.  The post “Mothers and Mental Illness” is a good reminder of what some mothers struggle with.


You might be interested in “Plan Your Free Online Education at Lifehacker U: Spring Semester 2014.”


From The Chronicle of Higher Education, Michael C. Munger writes “10 Tips on How to Write Less Badly.”

Asking in faith

John T. Willis has written a brief but encouraging post entitled “Ask in Faith – James 1:5-8.”


Some people believe that one overcomes another’s objections by presenting arguments and answers.  However, the “no” one receives may be rooted in something deeper.   See Seth Godin’s post “Coming from ‘no’.”








I guess you’ve noticed

I haven’t posted on the blog during December.  We are in the middle of the move to Memphis, Tn.  I will be working with Harding School of Theology.  In January, I will begin to post regularly again.  Thanks for your patience.

So Thankful for these 20 Years

LastSermonSunday was our last day with the Crestview Church.

We have been a part of this church family for over twenty years.  Sunday was a day we will remember.  Our children Jamie and Cal as well as Christine, Phillip, and grandson Brody were all there.  We were joined by other special family and friends – people who shared the day with us.

We will remember Sunday for a long, long time.

Our congregation expressed to us their appreciation and affirmation in ways that we will always remember.  Charlotte and I were moved.

The special lunch, the beautiful decorations, and the thought that went into this day spoke volumes to us.

The hugs, video tributes, and the kind and affirming words meant so much.  All of this was very humbling but also encouraging.

We enjoyed the hilarious skit with the Duck Dynasty family (featuring some of our own, dressed up, complete with beards).  It was so good to laugh together.

Our church family even gave us a financial gift they had evidently collected prior to Sunday.

We went home exhausted but full of gratitude for such a special day.

Today, I am so thankful for:

1.  A wonderful congregation who made us feel loved, appreciated, and valued on Sunday.  We received all that they did as a precious gift.

2.  Individuals who recalled memories of times (both sweet and difficult) that we shared together.

3.  The way we have been blessed by these people for over twenty years.  They helped us raise our children and navigate life.

4.  The blessing of serving this church and community.  (I really mean this.  It was a blessing!)

We will soon be on our way to Memphis.  I will begin a new ministry with Harding School of Theology.  The next chapter of our lives will begin. However, we will continue to treasure these friendships, memories, and the blessing of serving God in this place.

Monday Start: Resources for the Week

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The Letter is Dead, Long Live the Letter” by Maria Popova in Brain Pickings.


Thom Rainer has an excellent podcast “How to Respond to Criticism – Rainer on Leadership #031.”


40 Inspiring Workspaces of the Famously Creative” by Summer Anne Burton.


Always helpful.  See Victoria Labalme’sPresentation Skills – Animating Experiences, Adjectives and Emotions.”


Bill Mounce’s advice on what to remember regarding seminary or graduate studies.


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ImageAfter 20 years of ministry in one congregation, I am about to leave.  (My last Sunday here is November 24.)  Charlotte and I will move to Memphis, Tennessee, to begin working with Harding School of Theology.

Twenty years is a long time.  That is 20 years of sermons, conversations, and cups of coffee. That is 20 years of waiting in emergency rooms with families and well as celebrating with families.

Leaving and transition bring grief.  Charlotte and I certainly feel it.  I know many in our congregation feel this as well.  It is simply a part of transition.

I have been thinking about these 20 years.

I am so thankful …

… for the trust of this church.

Preaching to the same group of people week after week requires trust.  They must recognize that you are attempting to live out the Gospel in your daily life.  Trust either emerges or it remains a questionable issue in a congregation.

As I look back upon these years, I think of the many conversations with people — deeply personal conversations — about life, sin, failure, and grace.  I don’t take this for granted.  After all, a person believes their minister will handle this conversation with maturity and respect.  I am moved as I think about conversations in my office, in living rooms, and over cups of coffee about life.

… for the love of this church.

The people in our congregation have communicated to me how much they love Charlotte, me, and our two daughters, Christine and Jamie.  I am so grateful for this.

At the same time, I love our congregation.  Recently, our children’s ministry reserved the local skating rink for our church.  I was there for about 45 minutes and enjoyed watching the children of our congregation (and some of their parents) have so much fun.  I want to see them do well and grow up loving Jesus.  Because I love our congregation, it is very important how I leave.  When a minister abruptly leaves a church and gives the church little or no time to process what is happening, damage can be done that can have ramifications for the future.  It is very important to me to leave well.

… for the faithfulness of God.

Life as a congregation is something we do together.  That means that we experience not only joy but also pain.  Yes, pain takes place in every congregation.  Most of the time, ministry involves some sort of pain.  Divorce.  Death.  Sickness.  Unfaithfulness.  Sin.  These all take place in the life of a congregation.  Yet, as I look back, I see how the faithfulness of God gave us, as a congregation, the power to persevere even in difficult times.

More later.

Are These Enemies of Marriage in Your House?

apathyThe following are enemies of marriage.  They have a way of chipping away and even poisoning a marriage.  Run from these enemies.


Bitterness has a way of souring most any situation and most any day.  A bitter person can take seemingly innocent remarks and find something devious and sinister.  Bitterness is a poison that can be fatal to a marriage.


Withholding information can become a pattern that ultimately destroys a marriage.  Some people put great energy into withholding information about those they are texting, what they are saying in private messages on Facebook, and whom they are calling on the phone.


Some husbands and wives will not take the initiative in their marriage.  Children cry while he sits in his recliner wondering why she doesn’t deal with them.  Meanwhile, she puts more energy into Facebook and commenting on blogs than she does her marriage.  Passivity breeds neglect.  Consequently, this marriage may suffer from a lack of intention, time, and energy.

Absence of Adoration.

A husband or wife may go to great lengths to do what they want while ignoring their spouse.  For example, a husband makes a lot of effort getting tickets to the big game; however, when his wife says that she would like to see a play or musical, he makes little or no effort to respond to her desire.  These spouses communicate that they do not value one another enough to make the effort to give what the other might enjoy.

Constant Criticism.

There are people who constantly complain, whine, and gripe about their spouse.  They are silent about what their spouse does that is right while they harp on his/her shortcomings.  A critical spirit has a way of emerging no matter what the occasion might be.

Repeating Destructive Patterns.

A husband declares that he doesn’t want to be like his own dad, either in his marriage or as a dad to his own children.  Perhaps a young mother says that she doesn’t want to be like her faultfinding, complaining mother.  Yet, if a person is not intentional about becoming a different kind of spouse or parent, they will often resort to their default in their family of origin.  This person repeats the same immature and obnoxious behaviors disliked in his/her father or mother.

These are six deadly enemies of marriage.  Anyone who is married and follows Jesus has been called to something higher.  Genuine self-giving love will cause us to avoid these enemies and not go near them.


Is there a particular enemy that you have had to be especially attentive to?


Monday Start: Resources for the Week


Listen to these outstanding podcasts by Michael and Gail Hyatt as they reflect on their marriage.  (Part 1, Part 2, Part 3)  Very practical and encouraging.


See Harold Shank’s fine post “Purpose and Work.”

Middle School Heroics

Jeremy Statton has written a fine piece regarding the recent video that went viral featuring the middle school football team that “took a knee” on behalf of a teammate.  A great video and post.


See “Brain Pickings” by Maria Popova.  “The Perils of Plans: Why Creativity Requires Leaping into the Unknown.”


See “Work Smarter Not Harder” by Anthony Dejolde.


Soul Starvation

soul_550When Christian leaders are not regularly nourished, burnout can be the result.

Ministry can become something that one gets done by sheer willpower.  There is no longer any sense that one is drinking from strong and deep spiritual wells.

This can become deadly.

The demands of life and ministry become intoxicating.  Our lives are fueled by an adrenaline rush that results from feeling needed and important.

The pressures of life and ministry can become intoxicating.  There is no sense of rest, silence or recreation.  Instead, we find ourselves thriving on the pressure.

The appearance of spirituality can become intoxicating.  We can put tremendous energy into creating the illusion that we are spiritual people.

This intoxication is deadly.

Maybe the place to begin is by praying that God might nourish and water the parched soul and that the demands of life and the church will not be allowed to take precedence over what is essential to the soul.”

Monday Start: Resources for the Week

start_button_greenThe following are some resources which might interest you.  As usual, they cover a variety of subjects.  For the most part, they are articles or posts that I have read recently and found interesting.

Spiritual Journey

See “Fox News’ Highly Reluctant Jesus Follower” by Kirsten Powers.  A very thoughtful piece about the author’s own spiritual journey.


Dan Bouchelle has written a good post as a guest writer on Mark Woodward’s blog.  The post “Doing Short-Term Missions Well, Part One” is worth the read.


My daughter Jamie Kiburz passed on this excellent piece on marriage.  “Marriage Isn’t For You” by Seth Adam Smith.


See “Ten Rules for Writing First Drafts” by Demian Farnworth.  Helpful.

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10Ten realities of ministry with a church:

1.  Over-functioning is very tiring and usually results in other people under-functioning.

2.  I have often worried too much about others and some imaginary future crisis.  Each day has enough challenges.

3.  Sometimes I have felt too responsible for another’s life instead of focusing on the responsibilities that I really do have.

4.  It is critical that I pay attention to my own spiritual formation.  Authentic ministry flows out of who I am in Christ.

5.  One of the healthiest things I can do with any person or group is to be fully present at the moment.

6.  Public ministry and events are no substitute for regularly practicing the discipline of prayer.

7.  A minister can place far too much weight on how well someone else functions.  Doing so can often leave one feeling resentful at having to clean up another’s mess.

8.  The problem is often not the real problem.  A person’s anger may be rooted in anxiety, guilt, or fear connected to a completely unrelated situation.

9.  There is no substitute for personal integrity.  A seemingly effective public ministry does not give one an allowance for private immorality.

10. Encouragement from others is a wonderful gift.  However, some will rarely, if ever, provide this gift. A person’s spiritual energy must come from a source that does not depend on what someone else might say.